What I’ve Learned About Hate (Part Two)

I realize it’s a pretty major statement to tell someone who is hurting (and therefore hating) that their feelings of hatred are not directly the result of the hurt, but rather of their unbelief, but hear me out. I believe Scripture verifies this.

From 1 John 4:18, we learn that perfect love casts out fear. Immediately afterward, in verse 20, John launches into his explanation of hatred, vis a vis the love of God (i.e. that it’s literally impossible to love God if and when you [or I] hate someone). So, here, we see fear and hatred intimately linked, especially as they relate to the love of God. God’s perfect love casts out fear, and if a person has truly received and reciprocated God’s love, then they will not hate anyone. So what does this have to do with unbelief?

Check out this verse:

1 John 2:5,

5. But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.

John tells us that anyone who keeps God’s Word will have God’s love perfected in them. It’s the only way to truly know that we are found in God through Christ His Son. But what does a perfected love do? IT CASTS OUT FEAR!!!

And how does one have such love perfected? By keeping God’s Word. In other words, by OBEYING.

The Greek word for unbelief in the New Testament is apistia. It means faithlessness, i.e. disobedience and rebellion against God.

So what’s the conclusion? If a person is not obeying God’s Word, their love is not perfected, meaning their fear has not been cast out. And what part of God’s Word are they not obeying? Well, if they hate someone, which is the original matter at hand, then they are obviously not obeying the COMMAND TO LOVE (See John 13:34-35, 15:12, 17, Romans 12:10, 13:8, Galatians 5:13, Ephesians 4:2, 1 Thessalonians3:12, 4:9, 1 Peter1:22, 1 John 3:11, 3:23, 1 John 4:7, 4:11, 2 John 1:5). Now that’s a lot of verses. In fact, Jesus taught us that if we love Him, we must keep His commandments (John 14:15).

So when our hurts hurt so bad that we can’t see past the pain, we come to a place of anger and un-forgiveness. We want revenge. Our vengeance turns to hatred. We fear to love again for fear of being hurt again. We fear that to forgive and love our injurer is to somehow make a statement that what they did was okay or acceptable. Worse yet, some of us who hate fear that if we forgive our attackers then God will also forgive them, and so we fear that our desire of revenge will not be met, therefore instinctively knowing that God will not avenge Himself on our behalf. See, we expect God to take OUR anger out on others. We expect God to pour out OUR wrath on sinners who have sinned against us. To love and forgive is to admit that God will not do so. And sometimes, some of us just can’t handle that. But why?

Because we don’t love God enough to let God be God. We are idolizing the worth of our indignation, thinking that our wrath is just because of the hurt we feel. But the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God (James 1:20). So again, it all goes back to faithless disobedience and rebellion against God. The problem of our hate is within us, not in the person or group of people who have hurt us. The sin is ours, not theirs.


~ by votivesoul on 11/08/2012.

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